when good manners call for it

every sensible person should know when what they are saying is starting to be offensive. if it's starting to feel like an insult to someone else.
i know that tact and common sense are not common virtues, but my goodness let's use our coconut.
i am not onion skinned. god knows you can tease me all you want, i don't care. i might blush, i might keep quiet, but i won't be mad.
but there are limits to what i can take. especially if the same seemingly innocent remark is coming from the same person over and over again.
case in point. this person whom i have known so many years ago. we are not really that close. he is not even a friend. he is more like a working colleague, if there is such a thing.
we have not met for so many years. i can't remember when was the last time i saw him. as i've mentioned earlier, we are not close. so i don't care if i see him again or not. my life will still be the same, frankly.

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anyway, i met him again a few months ago.
the first thing he said when he saw me was how big i have become. he used the vernacular "ang laki laki mo na. lalo na ang tiyan mo."
i just laughed. anyway, it's true. i used to be really skinny when i was young. my waist line used to be under 30 inches. so i wasn't at all surprised when he pointed the obvious out.
but the thing is, every time he sees me (maybe for lack of something to say), he would say the same thing all over again. in different ways, in different variations. but the meaning is the same: "jun, you are so fat!"
sometimes he would say my tummy is huge, bloated or sometimes he would use his hand and draw a huge ball underneath his belly to say it.
now, i am wondering if he is  just being cute, or what.
is he saying i am ugly and unattractive because i am fat and my tummy is big? if i am,  i don't care. especially if it is coming from someone who does not even resemble zac efron's butt. he should look at himself first in the mirror. haha.
honestly, i am starting to be offended.
once, twice or even three times is alright. i have the patience of a virgin.
however, saying the same thing all over again every time he sees me is another thing.
it's no longer funny.
i know he is an intelligent person. perhaps he doesn't mean to be offensive.
sometimes i wonder if he is really as intelligent as everyone thought he is. because common sense will tell you that calling somebody fat is not, well, proper. it's bad manners.
maybe it's an innocent remark, but it's still unacceptable.
i hope people will start to learn some manners again.
it's what the world needs right now, more than your knowledge of history, philosophy, religion, financial markets, or what ever it is that makes you think you are intellectually and physically superior.
enough said. (ayokong dumami ang wrinkles ko, makalbo at lalong pumangit.)